Another day, another saying on the chopping block.
“Thoughts create your reality!!!”
Ick. This one statement alone has caused grief to almost anyone who has ever heard it! Down, down, down the spiral of paranoia and stress. If thoughts were the literal essence of your reality, then imagine those who deal with intrusive thoughts on a daily basis! Wouldn’t the world be in complete shambles 24/7?
The Toxic Positivity Misunderstanding
People think this stuff is about “positive thinking.” They think it’s about thinking your way into getting things. Like, “oh if I keep thinking I’m rich, I’m rich, I’m rich, then I’ll be rich the next day.”
That’s NOT how it is.
It’s not about lying to yourself.
It’s not about pretending your worst day is secretly “the best day of your life.”
That’s the fake, false toxic positivity version. That’s fear-based. That’s paranoia. That’s people trying to suppress everything and force themselves into robotic thinking. None of this is about that.
You’re Not Your Thoughts
Not every thought you think is true. Thoughts show up automatically. They’re just noise.
We’ve got two sides of the mind (an overgeneralisation):
The logical, rational side that wants to make sense of everything.
The free, open, creative side that knows life is more than what we see.
Both are real. Both exist.
People get stuck believing that if you change your beliefs, you’ll never have a negative thought again. Wrong! You will. It’s just your brain scanning for threats.
The question is: what do you do with it?
Do you identify with it? Or do you observe it, let it pass, and move on?
Perception Over Objectivity
Our experience of life is made up of our perceptions.
One “bad” thing happens, and eight billion people will see it in eight billion different ways.
There is no such thing as “collective objectivity.” Outside of any realm bound by reasoning and rules, like math and science, what is objectivity? Reality is subjective.
What matters isn’t “the fact” of what happened, but the meaning you assign to it. One person gets rejected and says, “I’m done for.” Another gets rejected and says, “This plays out for me.”
Both acknowledge what’s in front of them. But only one identity accepts it as final.
Focused Attention (Not Forced Positivity)
It’s not about forcing yourself into “positive” thoughts. It’s about focus.
You can tell yourself “I’m rich” all day. It won’t instantly put money in your account. Or ever at all. But what it does do, if you hold that focus long enough, is rewire your brain. You start to notice patterns, receive ideas, and see opportunities. You move differently. That’s the change to seek, not the ‘thing’.
So no, thoughts don’t directly create reality. But your focus, your perception, and your identity shift the way life unfolds for you.
Objectivity Has Its Place, But Not In Your Life
Objectivity belongs in math, law, engineering, medicine... Places where evidence and reason matter.
But when it comes to your actual life? Objectivity is often just a crutch. A way to justify not trying.
Logic will say: don’t start a business, 99% fail. Logic will say: look at the statistics, play it safe. Logic will hand you a thousand reasons to sit still.
But identity ignores the odds. Identity says: “I’m the kind of person who creates. I’m the kind of person who gets back up. I’m the kind of person who keeps moving.”
Statistics don’t determine your life. Collective beliefs don’t determine your identity.
The world evolves because people actually dared to ignore the odds.
You Always Have Dominion
Your mind is the only place where you have absolute dominion. You might not always have freedom of speech, but you always have freedom of thought.
That’s the most powerful freedom there is. And it’s yours.
This isn’t about lying to yourself to distort a situation into something it isn’t.
This is about exercising your power in choosing to see things differently.
Reframe enough times, and your perspective becomes more empowering.
And when your perspective is empowering, you handle life better.
Toxic positivity is for those who are afraid of their own minds. They are afraid of emotions. They are afraid of facing themselves.
Perspective shifts are for those who have no fear of who they used to be, and know that their power is in selecting their lens in how they view life.
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Your thoughts are precisely and exactly your reality. Your thoughts are the only reality you will ever comprehend.